At least 16 million women in China are married to gays, according to Professor Zhang Bei-chuan of Qingdao University, an authority on AIDS and HIV. He said that due to traditional family values in China, about 90 percent of homosexual men get married because of pressure to conform.
China Daily reports:
Xiao Yao, a 29-year-old magazine editor in Xi’an, Shaanxi province, divorced her gay husband in 2008.
“Most gay men’s wives I’ve known are silently suffering at the hands of husbands who could never love them, and like me, some even got abused by husbands who were also under great pressure,” she said.
Xiao now runs a website called “Homeland of gays’ wives”, which has 1,200 registered users and provides support and advice.
“The website makes them feel they’re not alone and empowers them to make the right choices,” she said.
Zhang said that getting their voice heard was the first step to raising public awareness.
However, some within the gay community think otherwise.
Xiao Dong, a 36-year-old gay man, who heads a civil organization in HIV/AIDS prevention and control, said: “Zhang’s estimation is unsubstantiated and I even feel it’s pointless to research the issue.”
Whether to get married or not is too complicated a question among the gay population and it is almost impossible to project the number of married gay men by simple calculation, he said.
“To put gays’ wives under the spotlight might cause more public misunderstanding or even hatred toward the gay population, which does not help defuse existing social discrimination against them,” he added.
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